Parents as Change Agents………………………. vii
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy Influence….. viii
How to Use This Book………………………….. viii
What’s Inside…………………………………………. ix
Quick Guide Activity………………………………. x
Chapter 1:
Understanding Your Child
Learning About Your Child
Defining Needs……………………………………….. 2
My Timeline……………………………………………. 3
Day Dreaming…………………………………………. 4
Symptoms and Impact……………………………… 5
Information Central, Introduction……………… 6
Information Central…………………………………. 7
Support Network…………………………………….. 8
Strengths and Weaknesses
Finding Your Strength, Introduction…………… 9
Finding Your Strength: Part 1………………….. 10
Finding Your Strength: Part 2………………….. 11
Stronger Together: Part 3………………………… 12
Impact Overview…………………………………… 13
Positive Goal Setting
Goal Setting: Caregiver & Child, Introduction . 14 Replacing “Bad” Behaviors 15
Setting the Goal…………………………………….. 16
Setting Your Goal…………………………………… 17
Action Plan…………………………………………… 18
Checking In………………………………………….. 19
Chapter 2:
Emotions and Feelings
Emotional Awareness
Emotion Database………………………………….. 22
Similarities and Differences…………………….. 23
Getting to Know You……………………………………….. 24
Feeling Rangebow…………………………………. 25
Feelings Cube, Introduction……………………. 26
Feelings Cube Template………………………….. 27
Emotion Expression
My Feelings………………………………………….. 28
Feeling Your Feelings……………………………… 29
Emotional Temperature…………………………… 30
Parenting Thermometer…………………………… 31
Frustration Thermometer…………………………. 32
Emotion Regulation
Recognizing Emotional Limits………………… 33
Making a Connection……………………………… 34
Linking Emotions, Thoughts and Feelings… 36
I Feel……………………………………………………. 37
Boiling Over…………………………………………. 38
Emotion Tracking and Data Collecting
Emotion Tracking Tools, Introduction………. 39
Thoughts and Feelings Log……………………… 40
Weekly Mood Tracking………………………….. 41
Behavior Log………………………………………… 42
Times of Inattention………………………………. 43
My Positive Thought Journal…………………… 44
Chapter 3:
Supporting Social Skills
Self-Discovery
Is My Child a Great Social Communicator? . . 46 Am I a Great Social Communicator? 47
Reading My Expression………………………….. 48
Who Do I Communicate With?……………….. 49
Confirm or Delete?………………………………… 50
Building Bridges
Learn Something New:
Trusted Adult Interviews……………………….. 51
What’s the Point?………………………………….. 52
“How are You Doing?” versus “What’s Up?!” 53
Building Confidence and Trust……………….. 54
Wow, That Was Rude!…………………………….. 55
Peer Interactions
Learn Something New: Peer Interviews……. 56
Setting the Stage……………………………………. 57
. . . And Action!…………………………………….. 58
What Did They Say?!…………………………….. 59
Making a Plan……………………………………….. 60
Exploring Perspectives
Looking at All Sides………………………………. 61
I Think, You Think…………………………………. 62
Movie Reflection: The Hero and the Villain. 63
Create Your Own Comic…………………………. 64
Powers of Persuasion……………………………… 65
Chapter 4:
Cognitive Skills
Flexibility
Family Flexibility…………………………………… 68
Mindful Reasoning………………………………… 69
Flexibility: Back-Up Plan……………………….. 70
Coping and Change……………………………….. 71
Partner Drawing…………………………………….. 73
Thinking Patterns
Actions and Consequences……………………… 74
Reframing Thoughts………………………………. 75
How Big Is My Problem?……………………….. 76
Problem vs. Reaction……………………………… 77
Reaching Out for Help…………………………… 78
Planning and Sequencing
Opportunities for Growth……………………….. 79
Sequencing and Prioritizing:
Afternoon Routines……………………………… 80
Sequencing Menu Check Off………………….. 81
What’s for Dinner?………………………………… 82
Little Victories………………………………………. 83
Time Management
Priority Practice…………………………………….. 84
Setting Priorities……………………………………. 85
Got Time?…………………………………………….. 86
Creating a Schedule……………………………….. 87
Do Now and Later Lists…………………………. 88
Chapter 5:
Building Coping Skills
Defining Coping Skills
Triggers and Actions………………………………. 90
Stressed Out…………………………………………. 91
Coping Interview…………………………………… 92
Trust Bubble…………………………………………. 93
Stop and Think!…………………………………….. 94
Conflict and Control
Giving Up Control: Because I Said So!……. 95
Whose Turn Is It Anyway?……………………… 96
Conflict and Consequences…………………….. 97
Watch Your Words………………………………….. 98
Stoplight Problem Solving………………………. 99
Calm, Cool, and Collective
Control Cards……………………………………… 100
10-Point Check In………………………………… 101
Letting Go of Worry…………………………….. 102
Recipe for Success……………………………….. 103
Calm Down Plan………………………………….. 104
Mindfulness
Mindfulness Labyrinth…………………………. 105
Full Body Focus………………………………….. 106
Relaxation Rolls…………………………………… 107
Peaceful Actions………………………………….. 108
Peace Chain………………………………………… 109
Chapter 6:
Family Dynamics
Family Connections
Family Word Cloud………………………………. 112
Family Roles……………………………………….. 113
Family Resume…………………………………….. 114
Family Coat of Arms……………………………. 115
Family Super Powers……………………………. 116
Rules, Rewards and Consequences
Core Values…………………………………………. 117
Values, Rules and Responsibilities…………. 118
Defining Rewards and Consequences…….. 119
They Did WHAT?!
Understanding Expectations……………….. 120
Family Expectations……………………………… 121
My Responsibilities Chart……………………… 122
Daily Goal Sheet………………………………….. 123
Caught You!……………………………………….. 124
Making Sense of Responsibilities…………… 125
Work for It!………………………………………….. 126
Luck of the Draw!……………………………….. 127
Routine Cards……………………………………… 128
Homework Helper………………………………… 129
Free Time Schedule………………………………. 130
Chore Routine Machine………………………… 131
Digital Parenting
Digital Connections……………………………… 133
Cell Phone Rules and Contract………………. 134
Technology Devices Rules and Contract…. 135
Social Media Rules and Contract…………… 136
Digital Parenting: Aware and Involved…… 137
Parenting Monitoring Plan…………………….. 138
Raising Digitally Responsible Children…… 139
Can You Handle It?……………………………… 140
Controlling Your Digital Reactions…………. 141
Finding a Balance………………………………… 142
