All About Boundaries

Teaching Children About "Drawing the Line"
Pages: 136
ISBN: 9781598500486
Item Number: 8351


Provides 121 guidance lessons, activities, and reproducible worksheets for helping students in grades 2 through 6 learn to establish their own boundaries and to recognize the boundaries of others.

The program is designed for small groups, but can be adapted for classroom or individual use. It is particularly helpful for those students who are struggling with boundary issues related to symptoms of ADHD and Asperger syndrome.

This resource can benefit all students but it is particularly helpful for those students who are struggling with boundary issues related to symptoms of ADHD, Asperger syndrome, Reactive Attachment Disorder, Post Traumatic Stress Disorder and codependency.

This book will help you to assist children to increase their respect for their own boundaries, as well as the boundaries of others. Through the insights and skills contained in this program, children can benefit through:

  • Improved social skills
  • Healthier relationships
  • Enhanced family relationships
  • Increased assertiveness
  • Improved emotional regulation
  • Increased self-esteem

Each chapter covers a specific aspect of boundaries and can be used as single session if only selected activities and worksheets are used. Or, each chapter can be expanded to two or three lessons if all of the activities and worksheets are used. Therefore, this book contains enough lessons for 10-30 weeks. Though any of the discussions and activities in this book work best in small groups, they can also be modified and used in a larger classroom, or in individual counseling sessions.

1. What are Boundaries?

Boundaries Here, Boundaries There, Boundaries Everywhere
Universal Boundaries
Attention, Attention: There’s a Boundary Here
Coloring Outside of the Lines
Handy Hands
Boundaries of Time

Reproducible Worksheets
Inside and Out
Separating Things
Farm Boundaries
Invisible Boundaries
Boundary Word Search
The Boundaries of Time

2. Identity Boundaries

Picture Your Boundary
Inside and Outside of Me
My Thoughts, Feelings and Actions Collage
Standing Out in the Crowd
Values Line
Me Yesterday and Today
Me Today and Tomorrow

Reproducible Worksheets
Write a Telegram
Decoding a Message from Shakespeare
What are My Values?
Rating Myself
The Differences between You and Me
Events that Make Me Who I am
Sentences Completion

3. Relationship Boundaries

The Boundaries of Trust
Steps to Minding Your Own Business
Right to Your Own Opinions
Rules to a Friendship
Similar but Different
Boundary Citations

Reproducible Worksheets
Separating Behaviors
Match the Behavior to the Relationship
Relationship Circle
Boundary Violations
Assessment of a Friendship

4. Social Skill Boundaries

Joining In
Admitting Mistakes
The ‘I Made a Mistake’ Game
Penalties for Assuming
Right Time or Wrong Time

Reproducible Worksheets
Joining in or Butting in
Good Time or Bad Time
Bossing or Suggesting?
Letting Friends Have Other Friends
Mind Reading

5. Personal Space Boundaries

Good Touches/Bad Touches
Hula-hoop Space
People I can Trust; People I can Tell
Personal Space Mobiles
Personal Space Puppet Show
Thumbs Up; Thumbs Down

Reproducible Worksheets
Boundaries on My Body
Keeping Safe
Hands are not for Hurting
Keeping It Safe. Kind and Helpful

6. “No” as a Boundary

Lots of Ways to Say “No”
The Broken Record
Saying “No” BINGO
Accepting “No” gets Easier with Practice
Talking to Yourself
Distracting Yourself on Purpose

Reproducible Worksheets
Lots of Ways to Say “No”
Saying “No”
Saying “No” to Peer Pressure
STOP means “No”
Accepting “No”
Talk to Yourself
Saying “OK” to “No”

7. Rules as Boundaries

Rules for the Island
No Rules!
Reasons for Rules Race
To Be or Not to Be by the Rules
Boundaries, Rules or Laws?

Reproducible Worksheets
Spelling Rule Blunders
Safe/Dangerous Choices
Consequences, Consequences
Benefits of Rules
Finding the Rule
The Golden Rule
My Rule-Following Evaluation

8. Emotional Boundaries

Levels of Feelings
Anger Cool Down
Calm Down Charades
Anger Management Puppet Show
Is It a Laughing Matter?

Reproducible Worksheets
When My Body Tells Me How I Feel
Where to go; What to do
Stinkin’ Thinkin’ vs. Positive Thinking
Handling Myself with Good Thinking
Change that Stinkin’ Thinkin’
Stop and Think When Angry

9. Verbal Boundaries

Stopping Myself
Talking Stick
Making Suggestions
Having Fun vs. Making Fun
OK or Not OK to Talk About?
Words that are Always in Style

Reproducible Worksheets
Speak or Be Silent?
Boundaries for Telling
Good Secrets or Bad Secrets?
Orders or Suggestions
Focusing on Behaviors Rather then People
Using Problem-Solving Language

10. Boundaries Review

When to Say “Yes”, When to Say “No”
Boundaries Flipper
Bossing or Suggesting?
Aristotle Said
Letter to Self
Parent Letter

Reproducible Worksheets
Boundary Crossings
No Stinkin’ Thinkin’
Alike and Different
Taking My Boundaries’ Temperature
Evaluating My Boundaries

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