How to Be Angry

How to Be Angry
An Assertive Anger Expression Group Guide for Kids and Teens
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How to Be Angry: An Assertive Anger Expression Group Guide for Kids and Teens


Children often struggle to cope with anger, and angry feelings can boil over into aggression and destructive behavior. This resource takes a different approach to anger, teaching children how to be angry effectively, rather than telling them not to be angry at all.

This group program provides step-by-step guidelines for building anger management and assertive emotional expression skills through tailored lessons, group activities and thought-provoking discussions. Participants will learn specific skills such as:

  • Using I-Statements
  • Standing Up to Bullies
  • Disagreeing without Arguing
  • Making and Refusing Requests
  • Responding to Anger
  • Finding Win—Win Solutions

Suitable for use with children and teenagers aged 5-18, this engaging resource will help children to overcome self-destructive patterns of passive, aggressive, and passive aggressive behaviour. It will be of great use to educators, counselors, social workers, youth care professionals, psychologists and parents.

Book Review

'How to Be Angry is theoretically sound, psychologically realistic and engagingly interactive. Anyone working or living with young people will be interested in How to Be Angry for the practical guidelines and engaging activities it uses to teach positive choices in anger expression and real-world skills for assertive communication. I can assure you that after teaching this curriculum and experiencing the rewarding comments of the students, this book, How to Be Angry, will never be returned to your book shelf.'

—From the Foreword by Dr Nicholas J. Long, Professor Emeritus, American University, Washington D.C., USA and President, Life Space Crisis Intervention Institute, USA

Table of Contents
Foreword by Nicholas J. Long
About this book
Who is How to Be Angry for? Facilitator qualifications
Creating a positive group environment
Using the curriculum
Part 1: Exploring Anger Behaviors
Session 1—That Makes Me So Mad!: Identifying Common Anger Triggers
Session 2—Decisions, Decisions! Four Choices in Anger Expression
Session 3—Sugarcoated Hostility: The Five Levels of Passive Aggressive Behavior
Session 4—Behind the Mask: Exploring Public Faces and Private Realities
Session 5—More than Words Can Express: How Body Language and Tone of Voice Can Say It All
Part 2: Developing Assertive Anger Expression Skills
Session 6—I Feel Angry: Using I-Messages to Express Anger Assertively
Session 7—Yes, No, or Maybe So: Assertive Skills for Disagreeing Without Arguing
Session 8—Keeping Bullies at Bay, Part 1: The Five Ws of Bullying
Session 9—Keeping Bullies at Bay, Part 2: Four Rules for Using Assertive Communication to Stand Up to Bullies
Session 10—"May I Please" and "No Can Do:" Guidelines for Assertively Making and Refusing Requests
Session 11—"That's So Nice of You to Say:" Assertive Strategies for Giving and Receiving Compliments
Session 12—On the Receiving End: Three Steps for Responding Assertively to Anger
Session 13—Four Square Problem-Solving: Finding Win-Win Solutions
Part 3: Committing to Assertive Anger Expression
Session 14—What's the Plan?: Replacing Self-
Defeating Patterns and Committing to Assertive Behaviors
Session 15—Putting It All Together: Choosing to Use Assertive Behaviors to Express Anger