Friendship and Other Weapons

Friendship and Other Weapons
Group Activities to Help Young Girls Aged 5-11 to Cope with Bullying
Middle School
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Friendship and Other Weapons: Group Activities to Help Young Girls Aged 5-11 to Cope with Bullying


Long before most school programs begin anti-bullying campaigns, young girls are getting a full education in social aggression. Girls as young as age five are experiencing acts of bullying, disguised as friendship, that shake the carefully laid foundations of their self-image, personal values, and beliefs about peer relationships.

Based on thought-provoking discussions, engaging games, strength-discovering exercises, and confidence-boosting fun, the hands-on activities in Friendship and Other Weapons build critical knowledge and friendship survival skills such as:

  • Recognizing the Red Flags of Girl Bullying
  • Responding Assertively to Bullying Behavior
  • Realizing Personal Strengths
  • Becoming an Ally to Others Facing Bullying
  • Resolving Conflicts Directly
  • Using Technology and Social Media Ethically

This photocopiable resource book provides educators, social workers and counsellors with a complete, ready-to-use group curriculum to help young girls aged 5–11 build constructive and fulfilling friendships.


'Friendship and Other Weapons has a wealth of new activities that teach young girls how to navigate the dark side of friendship and stand up to bullying. With clear, simple instructions and powerful points to make about friendship and aggression, this curriculum is a must have for anyone working with young girls. I can't wait to try out some of the activities!'

—Rachel Simmons, author of Odd Girl Out: The Hidden Culture of Aggression in Girls

'Want a proven way to help girls feel powerful enough to stand up to friendship bullies? This is it. The variety of activities reaches girls with different learning styles. The positive approach equips both parents and teachers with the tools they need to help girls assertively call out and reject friendship bullying.'

—Nancy Gruver, Founder, New Moon Girls magazine and online community,

'Friendship and Other Weapons is a wonderful resource for educators, counseling professionals, parents, and group leaders who wish to address bullying and instil pro-social friendship skills in girls ages 5–11. I highly recommend it.'

—Trudy Ludwig, best-selling author of My Secret Bully

Table of Contents
Introduction: About this Book
Session 1: Words Matter! Establishing the Ground Rules for Real Friendship
Session 2: Cast Your Vote: Identifying the Values of Real Friendship
Session 3: Silent Whispers: Two Rules for Stopping Gossip
Session 4: The Red Flags of Girl Bullying: When Friendship is Used as a Weapon
Session 5: No More Secrets: Four Rules for STANding Up to Girl Bullying
Session 6: Who Am I? Exploring Personal Strengths
Session 7: I Feel Connected: Finding Common Ground and Celebrating Differences
Session 8: Don't Just Stand There: Three Occasions for Becoming an Ally
Session 9: Standing in Your Shoes: Fostering Empathy and Cooperation in Girls
Session 10: Left Out in the Cold: Understanding the Power of Social Exclusion
Session 11: Sharing S.O.D.A.S. A Problem Solving Method for Girls
Session 12 Writing How-To Books: Ending the Group, Maintaining the Bonds
Supplementary Activities: Preparing Girls for a Social Media World
Session I: Tame that Tune: Evaluating Music Lyrics and Video Imagery
Session II: Is Seeing Really Believing? Evaluating Entertainment and Advertising Imagery
Session III: 24/7 Contact: Guidelines for Texting, IM'ing, and Facebook